To be fair, my husband says I can be fairly abrupt with him. He often asks me after we are quarreling about some spreadsheet on his PC, "Do you talk this way to your staff at work?" Of course, I say no. I would never be this impatient with them. It would make for horrible working relationships. But surprisingly, we have a pretty great marriage.
|Married 18 years!|
I think we all use candor on a spectrum for a variety of occasions. In terms of staying outside of the marsh of candor, I love the fact that there is one person in the world that I can completely and openly be myself with. Even though he doesn't always appreciate it, he gets to live with me for better or worse...and that is my husband. What I find interesting is that he manages to stay out of the marsh with just about everyone in his sphere of influence. But that's just his style. So if he tells you he's sorry about your face, at least you'll know, he likes you.